Adding Spice to Your Relationships

How can I put more spark in my relationship?

If you were to go to bookstore and walk to the self-help section, there would shelves filled hundreds of books about relationships. And if you went to Kindle on Amazon you'd find thousands of books on this subject.

Women are constantly asking the question what can I do to attract a relationship or to maintain my current relationship, or my marriage? More than 60% of the guidance and solutions are given to women about what to do but focuses on pleasing the other person. Which is very understandable because for hundreds of years women have had to focus on making their husband’s or boyfriend‘s happy. However, those solutions provided temporary cures and seldom honored the needs of the woman.

In the recent film, Crazy Rich Asians, there was a marriage between an extremely successful rich woman who married a man with average means. He had several affairs outside the marriage and blamed his behavior on her. She developed shame around her accomplishments and guilt about her desires. Finally, by the end of the movie she realized that her happiness and pleasure were crucial for her aliveness. She told him "it is not my job to make you feel like a man".

In America 50% of all marriages end in divorce. This indicates that one out of every two marriages will end in divorce. Since the 1980’s there has been an increase in women seeking and initiating the divorce.

Irvin McKinley reports that the highest age bracket of women getting divorce is between 30 and 40 years. Women entering our gatherings at Taking Women Higher discover that's the first relationship and most important relationship to have is the one with Herself. It is so important to discover the many needs and the many aspects of you as a Wombman. When this is accomplished there is integration and balance. There is a sense of self-worth and self-respect since you have fallen in love with yourself exactly the way are or not. If you become aware there are behaviors you have which don't bring you pleasure you will use new tools and experience JOY.

When you meet yourself  you will be  happy to learn She/you is your best friend. She is and was who has been with you every second of your life, through every circumstance and every situation. The final outcome is falling deeper and deeper and deeper in love with yourself.

Your relationship with yourself is the foundation of all relationships because how you treat yourself is how you will allow others to treat you. Although, women are waiting longer to get married often time focusing on careers many are not fulfilled by material things accomplishments or relationships. They are seeking more pleasure and more joy in their lives. They want to see juicy and alive. When a woman becomes aware that she has suppressed her needs for the needs of another she's determined to put her needs at the center of her life.

She does not become selfish, she becomes turned on, tuned in and excited about living. The heroine journey is an inward journey where you discover and meet yourself. It's a journey of excitement meeting the many faces of yourself and it's one filled with buckets of pleasure. The more pleasure one has in her life the more she feels turned on turned out. Mama Gena, creators of The School of Womanly Arts says when a woman is turned on the whole world is blessed.